A car doesn't run without gas. (OK---in 21st century-speak a car doesn't run without its ion- battery fully charged).
This fact is often ignored when it comes to the self.
Often I get to work with folks who are not taking care of themselves in
the most basic ways.
"I didn't eat yet today (and our appointment is 1 PM!).
"Tired? Yeah. I've had no chance to sleep for two days."
"I have no food in the house....too busy to shop."
"I haven't had a chance to do laundry in 3 weeks."
"Vacation? Who has time for vacation?"
"I worked until midnight. Then I got up at 6 this morning."
"I need to go to the doctor, but I can't get time off and this project is due."
"I live on caffeine. Too hectic to grab lunch."
When I meet individuals or couples for the first appointment, I ask and listen for how they make sure their basic needs are met.
Inadequate self-care is an important contributor to anxiety, depression, obsession, anger, motivation issues, and relationship conflicts.
Here's a test:
Take two minutes to check out this well done Self-Care Activity page
put together by the Social Work department at the University of Buffalo.
It covers eating, physical activity, mindfulness work, time-management techniques and assertiveness exercises just to name a few.
Next test:
Try just one of the techniques for a week (i.e.meditate for a minute, pack your lunch for 2 days, take a warm bath or shower before bedtime once a week, schedule that mammogram, go for a walk with a friend, make a moment for gratitude in the morning).
It will probably feel novel, maybe even indulgent.
But, given our recent interest in Selfie shots, Selfie sticks, Selfie mics....
Why not a little Selfie-Care?
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