Here's a big shout out to the novelist and essayist, Alain de Botton.
He's written an insightful and incisive essay.
"Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person".
http://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/29/opinion/sunday/why-you-will-marry-the-wrong-person.html?smid=tw-share&_r=0
It's a scary title for an article on relationships, but the opinion piece is quite reassuring once read.
Cited below is the passage that best conveys the work I've been doing couples and individuals for the last 20 years.
"The person who is best suited to us is not the person who shares our every taste (he or she doesn't exist), but the person who can negotiate differences in taste intelligently--the person who is good at disagreement. Rather than some notional idea of personal complementarity, it is the capacity to tolerate differences with generosity that is the true marker of the 'not overly wrong' person. Compatibility is an achievement of love; it must not be its precondition."
I hope you'll check out the column in its entirety. It's wedding wisdom well said.
Wednesday, July 6, 2016
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