"Good" News from The New York Times

We all know it's nice to balance the news of the day with some lighter fare. Some will choose the sports page. Others opt for the entertainment section. 

For the last three years I've chosen the "Smarter Living" page in Monday's New York Times. The Times says it wants to help its readers "live a more fulfilling life." I like how they gather well known researchers and professionals to tackle subjects ranging from how to approach difficult coworkers at your job to managing personal finances to learning how to say "no." 

Here's a link to a recent thought-provoking sample "Success Doesn't Always Bring Happiness" by A.C. Shilton. (June 3, 2019) 

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/28/smarter-living/you-accomplished-something-great-so-now-what.html

Behavioral psychology deserves to be getting ink on a regular basis. Of course, screen time is an option, too--you can sign up for a free summary of each week's offerings at their web site. 

It's just one more way to take good care.

Wedding Bells: Striking the Right Chord on Marriage

Here's a big shout out to the novelist and essayist, Alain de Botton.
He's written an insightful and incisive essay.
"Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person".
http://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/29/opinion/sunday/why-you-will-marry-the-wrong-person.html?smid=tw-share&_r=0

It's a scary title for an article on relationships, but the opinion piece is quite reassuring once read.

Cited below is the passage that best conveys the work I've been doing couples and individuals for the last 20 years.

"The person who is best suited to us is not the person who shares our every taste (he or she doesn't exist), but the person who can negotiate differences in taste intelligently--the person who is good at disagreement. Rather than some notional idea of personal complementarity, it is the capacity to tolerate differences with generosity that is the true marker of the 'not overly wrong' person. Compatibility is an achievement of love; it must not be its precondition."

I hope you'll check out the column in its entirety. It's wedding wisdom well said.