Wednesday, May 4, 2016

Sleep Difficulty? Solutions Dot "Calm"

Is sleep a problem for you?
Well, you certainly have company.

This year, the Center for Disease Control reports that 1 in 3 Americans don't get enough sleep (defined as 7 hours or more per day).


In 2013, the CDC found that 1 in 25 Americans used prescription medications for going to and staying asleep.

What can you do to help yourself get "forty winks"?

Pay attention to your sleep hygiene
--Pick a regular time for going to bed and stick to it.
--An hour before bedtime start your preparation for sleep. 
   
With nightly repetition each step in the preparation will become associated with sleep onset.  
Perhaps you'll start with a warm bath, a cup of herbal tea, setting out your things for the morning or reading a few pages of a book.
Whatever you choose, make it a ritual.

--Keep your sleeping area clear of electronics.

Experts tell us that it's important that we stop screen time at least an hour before going to bed.
That means no email, no video games and no IPads.  The blue light that comes with these devices interferes with the sleep-inducing hormone, melatonin.

---Clear your mind. 
     
Yes, it sounds like strange instruction, but a head that is grinding on the leftovers of today or anticipating the events of tomorrow will have a hard time easing into sleep.
There are a variety of ways to empty our heads.  You can do a progressive relaxation exercise, a body scan, or a guided meditation that will help you focus on your breathing, not your brooding.
You can practice with sleep meditation "how tos" on YouTube,
or check out sleep meditation apps on Itunes or Google Play.
Here are a few:
Sleep Easily by Shazzie
Buddhify's Going to Sleep mode,
Headspace's Sleep podcast

If none of these do the trick, consider getting a referral for an evaluation at a local sleep clinic. Insurance should cover this service when recommended by your primary care physician.  Often they can identify physical conditions, like sleep apnea, that impede a good night's rest.

There are many paths to take before prescription medicine becomes your "go to"


Til next, take care and sleep well.

Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Stop, Look and Listen: Brief Meditations for Spring-Cleaning the Mind

In our busy lives, it can be hard to make the commitment to slowing down
and taking care of ourselves.  I get excited when I read or see something concerning self-care that can be implemented with little fuss or trouble.

The website Yoga Journal has 26--count-em--26 different mindfulness meditations that are 5 minutes or less and are offered at no cost.
Yes, free and easy are the right descriptors here.
So, give it a listen (with no commercials, either).

I've included the URLs for two meditations that can done walking or standing around.

http://www.yogajournal.com/meditation/mindfulness-enjoy-exercise-walking-meditation/

http://www.yogajournal.com/meditation/evening-meditation-calm-reflection/


If you try them, let me know what you think (or let me know your favorites).

Til next time, take good care.


Thursday, February 11, 2016

Heartache, Heartbreak, Heart Awake: The Genius of Charles Schulz, Charlie Brown and the Neuroscience of Romance

August 28, 1971.......the cartoon is "Charlie Brown"
Scene:  Charlie Brown and Lucy are leaning up against a brick wall.
            
              Lucy: "How can you tell if you have a broken heart?"

             Charlie: "Well, for one thing, if you have a broken heart, 
                            you can't sleep at night.
                            When you roll over in bed, the jagged 
                             edges poke you in the side."

              Lucy:  "I'm glad I talked to an expert."
                             

In this month of hearts, flowers, candy and valentines, it can be difficult to be romantically "unattached" whether through a break up, separation, divorce, death, or (as with our cartoon pals) unrequited love.  

There are familial, societal, instinctual and even, physiological prompts to be attached to someone.

The hormone, oxytocin, is produced in our brains and facilitates human bonding from infancy through adulthood. 

Research studies since the 1950's  have explored the necessity of emotional attachment for human development and survival (feel free to wiki the names John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth)

In academia, they call it the "neurogenetics of sociality".
In plainer terms it's why we seek to click with someone special.

If you're interested in knowing a bit more here are a few resources.

"The Chemistry of Love"-- a nice 5 minute YouTube clip with psychologist Dr. Abigail Marsh
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bp7Ydv5wAPk

"The Neurobiology of We"--- an Audible series with Dr. Daniel Siegal, a psychiatrist and medical researcher with an specialty in mindfulness
http://www.amazon.com/The-Neurobiology-We-Relationships-Interact/dp/159179949X

and  Wikipedia's extensive entry on Attachment Theory (originated by Bowlby and Ainsworth)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory

Till next time, take heart.

Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Happy Lunar New Year....Happy Valentine's Day....a red-letter week.

During this holiday week of Lunar New Year and Valentine's Day we all will be seeing red....
symbols in red.

The red packets given out during Lunar New Year signify wishes for good luck, happiness, and prosperity during the coming year.

The red hearts given out on Valentine's Day are direct expressions of our affection.

Both rituals encourage us to physically and emotionally demonstrate our connection with those who are close to us.

Here's a wish that we can send these good feelings to one another all year long.



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Wednesday, January 20, 2016

"Look out you rock n' rollers": Changes (tip of the hat to David Bowie)

 Happy New Year to all.

The end of one year and the start of the next is an arbitrary point in any calendar.
Yet, many of us use it to mark a time of transition.  
With great energy and good intentions we'll try to change
the way we think, the way we behave or the way we feel in order to 
gain more control of our lives.

Research suggests that we'll have the best opportunity for
success if we start with a goal (not two or three) that is small in scope, specific in definition and
in the general direction of where we want to go.

Aesop's Fable of the Hare and the Tortoise resonates for a reason.
"Slow and steady wins the race."
Gradual, specific, incremental shifts in behavior are a realistic method to move yourself forward.

Looking for more guidance?  With the advent of the world wide web, we have access to free, concise and expert advice.

Here are some TED talks that may help you with your "ch-ch-ch-ch-changes."

Getting Started:
http://www.ted.com/talks/matt_cutts_try_something_new_for_30_days

Eating Well:
http://www.ted.com/talks/sandra_aamodt_why_dieting_doesn_t_usually_work

Getting Psyched:
http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_pink_on_motivation?language=en

Finding Peace:
http://www.ted.com/talks/matthieu_ricard_on_the_habits_of_happiness

Feeling Better:
http://www.ted.com/talks/guy_winch_the_case_for_emotional_hygiene


Enjoy.




Monday, June 22, 2015

Romantic Relationships: Meet, Greet, and What's "Good Enough"?

New York is wonderful. 

This city is populated with talented, energetic, bright and ambitious men and women who strive to feel successful in their work and personal lives.

But, that same pressure for "excellence" can become a barrier to finding satisfaction in romantic relationships.

Now, add into this mix the sheer density of potential mates in a city of 8 million.

Is it any wonder that finding and maintaining a "good enough" relationship is such a challenge in The Big Apple?

The humorist and actor Aziz Ansari has summed up this dilemma in his recent Time Magazine 

essay "Everything You Thought You Knew About Love Is Wrong".

http://time.com/aziz-ansari-modern-romance/?pcd=hp-magmod

Check it out to read a pithy summary of how the combination of unlimited dating choices (Tinder, Match, OKCupid), perfectionism and unrealistic expectations are frustrating the search for
meaningful companionship

Til next  time I hope you have time to slow down and breathe.....summer is here....enjoy.








Thursday, March 19, 2015

Mindful Meditation---A Different Way to Put On Your Thinking Cap (Updated)

"Mindfulness", a type of cognitive practice derived from Buddhist meditation, is receiving a lot of press with good reason.

With training, an individual gradually learns to focus attention on one's breath, body and thoughts from a nonjudgmental stance of awareness. If the practice is made daily (for even a few minutes at a time) a new ability emerges to live without the encumbrances of past and future worries.
Research is finding that mindful meditation practice can improve mood, reduce inattention problems in adults and teens (e.g. ADHD), lessen anxiety, decrease chronic pain and even improve relationships!

Mindfulness training is available in many forms and formats--from your local yoga studio to Wikipedia's "How To" section to a free master class with one of the most noted practitioners and teachers, Jon Kabat-Zinn. (The folks at Google posted his hour-long lecture/demo on You Tube as a public service!)

Mindfulness Apps are available (and many are free) for smartphones of all kinds.
Read the reviews carefully to see what is right for you on
GooglePlay,
Aptoide for Android,
Itunes or
Samsung Galaxy Apps

Additionally, as a service for their student body, UCLA and other universities post useful links for free guided meditations and podcasts that can start you on your way.


I've posted the links below with all the specifics.
Let me know what you think......



Jon Kabat-Zinn's demonstration class on You Tube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3nwwKbM_vJc

Wiki's How-To Instruction:
http://www.wikihow.com/Practice-Mindfulness-%28Buddhism%29

UCLA Student Health: Free Guided Meditations
http://marc.ucla.edu/body.cfm?id=22

UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center Podcasts:
http://marc.ucla.edu/body.cfm?id=107

The Free Mindfulness Project
http://www.freemindfulness.org/download


A Sampling of Great Blogs summarizing new Mindfulness scientific research
(some are more technical than others, but all have some less jargony postings)

http://www.scientificmindfulness.com

http://mindblog.dericbownds.net

http://sharpbrains.com/blog/2008/05/22/mindfulness-meditation-for-adults-teens-with-adhd/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/rewire-your-brain-love/200911/nine-ways-meditating-brain-creates-better-relationships